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Deceased parents included 14 mothers and 15 fathers and four respondents had lost both of them (total of 37). There were 29 sudden or unexpected deaths (at least from the perspective of the child), four of these being accidental and one being suicide, the others being from disease (i.e. cancer, cardiovascular and neurological disease) and included dying trajectories of various lengths.
In analysing the data it was clear that, while individual experiences of bereavement in childhood were unique, common themes were identified across the narratives which impacted on bereavement experience over time including disruption and continuity, communication, and social networks and affiliations.
The narratives were organized around maintaining continuity in the face of disruption. Ruth lost her parents within six months of each other when she was 16 and went to live with a family friend. She explains why:
I didn't want to go to family – I didn't, I think because, the enormity of what of happened and the fact that I'd lost both parents in such a short time – I had been able to stay with my aunty O … it meant that I didn't have to make new friends because it was the one constant – my school and my friends were the world that didn't change. Everything had changed, I'd lost my home, I'd lost my parents, I'd got no brothers and sisters, I'd got nobody but you know nine o'clock or half eight in the morning I went off to school and I came back at say half past three and in that time I was like any other, I was a normal schoolgirl if that makes sense (Ruth 46, aged 16 when parents died six months apart).
By expressing her preference to live with a family friend whom she called aunt, Ruth was able to stay in familiar surroundings. This sense of continuity was particularly important to Ruth, as it provided sense of stability and normality in an otherwise chaotic life world where she could escape (albeit temporary) the enormity of such profound disruption.
In contrast, Anne-Marie was sent to live with her paternal grandmother after her mother's death without her sister. This relationship with her sister was important to Anne Marie: as far as she was concerned, it was the only source of continuity that she had been able to rely on. Anne -Marie explains:
So first of all, that was really strange because I wasn't living with my sister anymore and then just further compounded my feeling of loneliness because now I was stuck with my nana – who I loved – but she was an old women and where's me sister gone. I had no one to confide with, or share it with and stuff like that so that was awful. I remember feeling very upset that L (name of sister) wasn't there anymore. Urm and at the time I didn't realize why she didn't want to be there, it was just like well she doesn't want to be with me either. so yeah L went and went to live with my aunty’. Urm, since then I have had real issues with loneliness – I've had real, real bad issues throughout my life (Anne-Marie 25, aged 8 when her mother died of a brain hemorrhage).
For Anne-Marie the insecurity, fear and loneliness she experienced as a result of her mother's death appears to have been intensified by the lack of support from her father and being ‘stuck’ with her parental grandmother without her sister providing support. At the time Anne-Marie was unaware of the reasons underpinning her separation from her sister hence she made sense of it by seeing it as rejection which further compounded her feelings of loneliness and isolation. For Anne-Marie the significance of this event is reflected in the fact that throughout her adult life she has experienced overwhelming feelings loneliness and isolation and finds it difficult to trust others.
Continuity was also affected by a reduction in parental capacity which the respondents could not make sense of, as exemplified in Winifred's story. To Winfred her mother appeared to be no longer interested in where she went or what she was doing after her father died. Winifred believes that this change in her mother's behaviour to be as distressing as her father's death as exemplified below:
And it was a strange feeling on my part – I don't think it was exactly that I had lost two parents but that I lost [one] parent and the other one had changed so much. Now that only lasted a short time in now I understand it, but at the time I didn't and that … distressed me in a way as much as my father dying- that might sound odd but, and I still remember that and when I was a doctor I came to be associated a lot with bereaved people, I learned the theories about loss and grief I immediately recognised that was why my mother had reacted, it didn't last very long (Winifred 63, aged 17 when her father died).
Through her subsequent experiences Winifred was able to understand that the change in her mother's behaviour was due to grief. Had Winifred understood what was happening to her mother at the time the extent of her distress might have been alleviated.
Where this reduction in parental capacity was long term the impact appeared much greater as exemplified in Jane's narrative:
She [mother] was throwing everything out in house that belonged to me dad and I was gutted … but she started throwing things of mine out then and I just felt alone; I had no one to back me up and I couldn't talk to her about it and then it happened every single year after and I'd buy more books to replace what she'd thrown out and she'd do the same and, in the end I had to leave (Jane 51, aged 17 when her father suffered a heart attack and died).
For Jane the distress she experienced appeared to be compounded by the fact that she feels she has no one to support her during this time.
Narratives were often organized around the extent to which support from social and institutional affiliations (e.g. schools, religious organizations, neighbours and friendship networks) mediated the impact of parental death. For some this support provided access to role models, moral guidance and a sense of security as the following extracts illustrate:
I don't think actually when I was younger it had a lot of effect on me because I think I was quite social you know, had lots of friends and erm went to Sunday school and that, church youth club and had a lot of friends there. And I think cos, that I sort of had some friends with dads – they sort of, they became like surrogate dads really … there was a guy who was like me Sunday school superintendent-, I suppose he was like a father figure really (Sue R 51, 9 when her father died of a lung condition). My father's death caused my mother some disillusionment with religion but she was happy for me join a church choir hoping that the church would exercise a strong moral influence. She was less enthusiastic about my joining the Boys’ Brigade as she still remembered its early military associations but soon came to see it providing ‘manly’ activities in a safe environment under the control of dedicated men who were providing a strong masculine influence, which she did accept was lacking in my life (Sam 72, aged 3 when his father died of heart disease). The convent had given me security. It wasn't just a place of worship or a holy house. Unlike the other children who had gone off through the school gates and gone home, I'd actually seen the other side of this convent life- that was the security … And better still I could probably walk into most convents now and fall into the routine even now quite naturally … And it's not, they'd be no awkwardness there, or it doesn't feel right, it was a sense of security as well as a belief (Christina 57, aged 5 when mother died of leukaemia).
However, distress was compounded in cases where participants felt excluded from any support offered. Whatever the reason underpinning this, the perception was that being excluded contributed to feelings of isolation and loneliness.
And erm there was a welfare officer from the police came round to offer some assistance I don't know what, she'd[mother] talked to him in another room so I don't know, but nobody came and sat with me. Err, it was always me mum, they'd come and see me mum, I don't know whether she thought you know that I shouldn't be exposed to this kind of thing or whether I was too young to understand it but, the overriding feeling was that I felt left out. I think it was me age, I think if I'd been older I might have had some kind of, somebody to sit and listen to how I was feeling (Jane 51, aged 17 when her father died of a heart attack). I think they might have supported my mother- I'm sure they did support my mother very well. I think, looking back on it now I think in an analytical way I think actually what it was, was that they assume that a 17 year old boy can cope and they just didn't do anything or say anything or you know really at all (Gerald 62, aged 17 when his father died after varying degrees of ill health).
Distress was compounded when children were not given accurate information not only at the time of physical death, but when the parent they knew in terms of caring for them and looking after them is lost to them due to their illness. This lack of information was perceived to contribute to the ensuing fear and bewilderment experienced, as illustrated in an extract from Jimmy narrative.
…at the time, so kind of bewildered about what was going on around me and not really understanding or having it explained to me. But being a fairly bright kid so, with the ability to make, to create a back story which probably had no foundation in reality at all but, does that make sense? …, I can I can remember I can remember being so scared and bewildered, I didn't, nobody had explained to me what the nature of her illness was, how she got there (Jimmy 48, aged 8 when his mother died of encephalitis).
So intense were these feelings that they have remained in his adult memory. The intensity of this distress is reflected in the use intensifiers ( I can, I can remember, I can remember, being so scared and bewildered ) present in Jimmy's narrative. Had he been told about his mother's illness and her subsequent death Jimmy feels that he would not have had to create his own back-story which was not necessary helpful.
In some families the deceased parent could not be as talked about at all for fear that family members (particularly surviving parents) might not be able to cope with the emotions triggered by a reminder and families created implicit rules for the communication of thoughts and feelings. In some cases families often stopped functioning as a family and became ‘individuals in a family’. As an adult Lucy reflects on how the subsequent lack of closeness as a family, particularly to her mother, stems from the fact that that she (and her siblings) even prior to her father's death were able to discuss this openly as a child.
I suppose we were all a bit separate in our family and still are- I don't feel that close to my mum, I had to tell her something recently and it's taken weeks of courage to tell her something and I'm not really that close to my brothers and sisters, slightly better with my sister recently, I think it was because we were separate and left to work things out for ourselves and that's how it has always been and that as I say how we found out about the accident was piece it together (Lucy 43, aged 10 when her father was killed in a plane crash).
A unique feature of this study was its exploration of the impact of early parental death over the life course of the participants up to as long as 71 years after the death of a parent(s). Crucially this brought into view the damage and effects on the individual overtime as a consequence of inappropriate or neglectful management. Through the analytical process it was revealed that while the individual experience of bereavement were unique, they were organized around common themes which mediated the experience of parental loss, including disruptions and continuity, the role of social networks and affiliations and communication.
In common with other studies 22 , 23 the analysis confirms that moving home and separation from family and friends made adjustment to parental death significantly more difficult and increased distress in the bereaved child. Consistent with Worden, 16 we found that the longer disruptions in daily life continued, the greater their impact on children. However, our analysis further suggests that when children experienced a progression of discontinues events (or continuity that did not meet their need) respondents appear to be more likely to experience emotional difficulties and feeling of insecurity and loneliness in adult life.
Broader research on childhood trauma suggests that the quality of the relationships within the family influences a child's recovery after trauma occurs. 24 An important factor is whether the child feels safe and secure within a loving supportive family, with a surviving partner who is able to parent effectively. Even temporary changes in parental capacity were found to be distressing for children as respondents often did not understand what was happening. Riches and Dawson 25 term this experience the ‘double jeopardy’ whereby the child not only suffers the loss of a parent but the symbolic or temporary loss of other parent. The analysis further suggests that where these changes are longer term the distress experienced is compounded and there may be significant impact in adult life in terms of loss of self-esteem and self-worth.
Our study also demonstrates the distress experienced by the child when their support needs are not taken into account by the social network. The findings suggest that, in order to help minimize the disruptive effect of bereavement of children's social worlds, it is essential that bereavement support consists of far more than counselling that is frequently available and offered to bereaved children. Structured support ensures the many different contexts for continuity can be harnessed and maintained. The findings suggest that where possible child/children remain in existing their social networks (e.g. live in the same area, go to the same school, and maintain the same friendships and other social affiliations). Those working with bereaved families also need to ensure that support which increases stability, continuity and cohesion is introduced at every level of the family system. This includes essential practical support, e.g. practical household tasks housework, cooking, shopping and taking the children to school, as this reduces the social, economic and caring burden on the surviving parent. Our research suggests that if the social network addresses the necessary ‘mothering/fathering’ then a child does not appear to be affected in adult life.
Much of the literature emphasizes the need for open communication with regard to the physical death and the need for regular updates regarding the course and prognosis of the disease. 26 There appears to be little or no acknowledgement of that fact that children also need to be given information when the parent is no longer able to fulfil the parenting role during a terminal illness. The findings from this study demonstrate the distress experienced as children and adults when they are not given clear and honest information at appropriate time points relevant to their understanding and experience. Our study emphasizes that communication is dialectic, dialogic and dynamic in nature. Therefore, rather than unilaterally promoting open communication the findings from our study suggest that it is essential that those working with bereaved families discuss the complexities of communication with the family members and explore the different meanings associated with sharing grief experiences with each other. 27 This supports the family as a unit to integrate experience and adapt to changes with few attempts to control thoughts and feelings. 28 In the absence of resources such as economic security or social support, individuals and families are forced to rely on interpersonal, negotiated, emotional controls as a strategy of last resort 29 and confirmed by our study. This is likely to have a negative impact on relationships in adulthood as respondents often found it difficult to express feelings, as our findings clearly illustrate.
Based on the findings from our study a model is suggested for identifying and supporting those that may be more vulnerable to less favourable outcomes in adult life is presented in Figures 1 and and2 2 .
Key elements for supporting parentally bereaved children achieve better outcomes in adulthood. **Support needs to be sensitive to the family's cultural beliefs surrounding, death, dying and bereavement, parenting and the wider cultural practices in which such beliefs are imbedded
Key elements to help identify bereaved children that may be more vunerable to less favourable outcomes in adulthood. *Refers to both the physical death and the ‘death’ of the parent that was known to them
A limitation of this study is the recognition that memory is a re-constructive process; hence early memories evolve under reconstruction. Respondents were asked to recall events that they had experienced in childhood and may have brought their own prejudices and mindsets into their memories. In addition, it is important to clarify that the purpose of this study was to increase our understanding of the subjective experience of the impact of early parental death on adult life. Even though there may be inaccurate or incomplete recall due to memory attrition, it is the actual lived experience of the participants which was most important. As this was a self-selected sample, there may be same bias in favour of those who saw value in talking or writing about their experiences. The limited ethnic diversity in our sample limits the extent to which the findings can be generalized to other cultures.
One of the main findings of this study relates to the damage and suffering experienced by individuals in adult life when appropriate levels of support are not provided. The Childhood Bereavement Network 30 developed a set of guidelines to provide organizations and individual practitioners with a baseline ‘best practice’ framework for support of parents of bereaved children. These guidelines recognize the importance of supporting and affirming parents of bereaved children and acknowledge that parents have the primary role in providing support for their children. The guidelines also acknowledge that parenting is challenging, varied and long-term, and families will have a broad range of practical, emotional, social and financial needs. The findings suggest that it is crucial for such guidelines to be followed if the damage and suffering experienced by individuals in adult life is to be minimized.
Competing interests.
None declared
The study was funded by the Clara Burgess Charity
Full ethical approval was gained from the University of Liverpool Ethics committee
MLW is the overall guarantor
All authors contributed equally
The authors would like to acknowledge the participants for sharing their experiences and colleagues at the Academic Palliative and Supportive Care Unit for the advice and support.
Losing a mother is one of the most difficult experiences in life. But writing a tribute that honor’s your mothers memory can bring some real comfort and closure.
When I wrote a tribute for my mother after losing her I found the process of writing very cathartic. It helped me to remember what a wonderful person she was and the good times I had with her.
You can also use your tribute or sections of it in a eulogy or as part of the funeral or memorial service.
So if you want to write a tribute to your mom but aren’t sure how keep reading. The tips and examples here will help you to write your own meaningful tribute to your late mother and to say goodbye .
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There are some easy steps you can take to get your tribute perfect. You don’t have to include all of the following but it will give you some good ideas and a starting point if you want to write your own.
If you want to see some sample tributes then click here to scroll down and past these steps .
The first thing you should do is decide the tone your tribute is going to take. This will depend on your relationship with your mother. These are a few examples of how you may want your tribute to sound.
An anecdote or story that gives some insight into your mothers personality or the relationship you had is always good to include. This can bring your tribute to life and really make others understand the type of person your mom was.
Some examples of anecdotes you could use:
Be as specific as you can and include lots of details. You want the memories to be as vivid as possible so describe everything you remember.
What achievements made your mother proud? Think about the accomplishments that she was pleased with.
Things like educational degrees, career highlights, creative talents or any community service she did. Anything that you know she found fulfilling and showed pride in.
For example: “Mom was the first female engineer at her company and loved mentoring younger women entering the field.”
But also don’t overlook what might be considered more mundane. If she was proud of the family she raised then mention that – “Raising four children and managing a household was mom’s greatest accomplishment.”
A tribute should focus on the positive aspects of the person, in this case your mother. So talk about her strengths and what made her special.
For instance you could say: “Mom faced every challenge with courage and determination. Even when diagnosed with cancer, she stayed positive.”
But it doesn’t have to be something sad or related to her death. Things like loyalty, kindness, patience, how fun loving she was etc. are all qualities you can mention in your tribute.
Here’s a few more examples of what else you could include:
This isn’t a necessity, and some may prefer not to, but consider including an appropriate quote. One that reflects the love of a mother and child.
For example:
Or alternatively choose a quote from literature, movies etc. your mother loved. Introduce it by saying why it reminds you of her or talk about why it meant so much to her – it was from her favorite film, writer etc.
These quotes about losing a loved one are a good starting point or see all our quotes for more ideas.
Most tributes finish by directly addressing the person they are about. So speak to your mother and sum up her lasting impact.
These are a few closing tribute ideas:
For more ideas see these tribute messages for loved one’s .
If you and your mom didn’t get on well or your relationship was complicated it can be hard to write a fitting tribute. You may have mixed feelings and be unsure of how to properly express them.
A good way to work around those concerns are to focus on the positive memories you do have, even if they are small moments. Or you could highlight her virtues, talking about things like her strength and resilience when faced with adversity.
For most of us the mother-child connection remains, even when fractured. You can honor what your mom meant to you by being honest and acknowledging your complex relationship while still reflecting on the impact she had one your life.
Remember that grief comes in many forms – a troubled relationship does not diminish your loss. So your tribute should reflect your truths.
If you’re still unsure of what to put in your mothers tribute these samples that take different approaches should help.
Our beloved matriarch, Helen Jones, passed away last month at the age of 87. Mom was the heart and soul of our family. A constant source of love, wisdom and encouragement. I can still feel the warmth of her hugs and her infectious laugh even now. And she had a smile that was so radiant and lit up every room she entered.
From childhood through adulthood Mom and I shared a bond that was special. She was my the person I knew I could turn to, confide in and look for help when I needed it. Basically she was my best friend. When I was scared, she soothed me. When I achieved success, she cheered louder than anyone. And when I struggled it was her who lifted me up with a faith in me that never wavered.
And family meant so much to her. She had a gift for making every family occasion magical, especially Christmas. Some of my most treasured memories are of baking cookies, decorating the tree and curling up in mom’s lap as she read “Twas the Night Before Christmas.”. The holidays will never be the same without her.
While we mourn mom’s passing we take comfort knowing her legacy lives on through her children and grandchildren. I will be forever grateful for the unconditional love she gave me. Her kindness and warmth touched everyone she met. Losing her leaves an ache in our hearts, but also inspiration to live up to her beautiful example.
Dr. Sophie Roberts, beloved mother, grandmother and groundbreaking scientist, passed away on January 5th at age 78. She lived a full and vibrant life defined by her intellectual curiosity, pioneering research and love for her family.
Dr. Roberts was a molecular biologist who made critical contributions to understanding RNA. She authored over 100 research papers and won numerous awards, including the National Medal of Science for her advances in genetics. She was especially proud when one of her discoveries led to a major breakthrough in treating leukemia.
While Dr. Roberts achieved so much professionally she always put family first. Whether it be a sporting every, play or graduation ceremony, she never missed a single one. She was always encouraging and helping her children to dream as big as they could. The scientific knowledge she passed on was so valuable but above all it is the love and support she gave that we will remember most.
Mom lived a life guided by determination and discipline. She was our role model and exemplified hard work, excellence and perseverance. While her absence is felt so deeply her principles and caring examples she set continue to guide us. We will always be grateful for the full, rich life she led and the time we had together. Your spirit lives on, Mom, through all you taught us.
Our relationship was complicated, but I always knew deep down that you loved me, mom. We clashed often as I was growing up. You had such high expectations for me and I felt like they were impossible to reach. It weighed heavy on me and I struggled to deal with that pressure. And we had our fair share of arguments over the years. But now you’re gone all I can think about is how much you sacrificed for me and that you only wanted me to have the best.
You worked three jobs to make sure I had everything I needed. I never went without, even when money was tight. And you always supported my interests, whether that was driving me to piano lessons or rehearsals for plays. It didn’t matter when they were or how exhausted you were from work, you made sure I got there. I know I didn’t say it enough, or at all, but I was so proud to call you my mother.
We had our differences, of that there’s no doubt, but your actions spoke louder than words. You may not have shown your love through words but you did instead through sacrifice. I admire you so much for the hardships you went through to raise me right. I wish we had more time together to mend fences. But I know you’re still watching over me and I am going to make sure I live a life that would make you proud.
Losing you so suddenly Mom has left us all devastated. Not having you around and the pain of your passing is still raw. Our family will never be whole again with you gone. But even in such grief we can strive to find comfort in all the wonderful memories we shared over the years.
Like our yearly beach trips, where we built sandcastles, collected shells and watched the sunset over the ocean. And all those times you cheered so loud at my basketball games you drowned out every other parent. Or when you swallowed your fear of flying just to visit me in college.
Your love was like the ocean – vast, powerful and constant. You gave so much and asked for nothing in return. And while you may no longer be with us we feel your love still burning as strongly in our hearts and memories.
I miss you every single moment, mom. But I know you’ll always be with me, your spirit by my side and supporting me like you did in life. We will all honor your memory by following your generous and kind example and trying to do as much good as you did.
On February 19th we lost our beloved mother, Andrea Carter, at the blessed age of 94. She lived an extraordinary life defined by serving others and a wisdom we all benefited from. Her faith was an ever present throughout her life and so important to her.
Andrea set an example of what it means to walk with God. She volunteered tirelessly with the church and could always be counted on to provide meals and support to those in need. She could lift the spirits of everyone she met through an overflowing of compassion and kindness.
Andrea faced many of life’s challenges with grace, courage and humility. Even into her 90’s she maintained fierce independence, wit and lust for life that was inspiring to all who knew her. Her mind remained sharp as a tack and she took great joy in being with her many grandchildren and great grandchildren.
While we grieve her passing we can find solace in Andrea’s faith. She is in the arms of the Lord now. We will honor Andrea’s beautiful soul by following the example she set – loving with all her heart, selflessly serving others and walking faithfully with God.
Writing a tribute for a mother is never going to be easy. Emotions will be raw, you’ll still probably be grieving and will have to think of those most cherished memories you had with your mom.
But while it may take its toll you can take some comfort knowing your words will contribute to memorializing her memory. And being able to pay tribute to someone as special as your mom will be a big part of the grieving process.
So honor her life and all she meant to you with a fitting tribute.
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As told to Sue Morris, PsyD
As director of Dana-Farber’s Bereavement Program , I regularly sit with bereaved individuals, listen to their stories, and help them navigate their lives after they have been completely turned upside down.
I recently spoke with three bereaved parents who are members of Dana-Farber’s Pediatric Patient and Family Advisory Committee (PFAC), to learn more about their experience of grief.
Here are their stories.
Jose was born in March 1994. He was a spiritual kid who loved to eat and cook. He was smart and intelligent, with a dark sense of humor. When Jose was 11, he was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL) and began treatment at Dana-Farber/Boston Children’s Cancer and Blood Disorders Center . Seven years later, while a senior in high school, he died.
I felt depleted after Jose’s death –spiritually, emotionally, and physically. I was exhausted not only from my immediate grief, but also the cumulative effect of caring for Jose for many years. After his death, I knew I needed to start taking care of myself, but I didn’t know where to start. Eventually, I found walking, working, and telling stories about Jose helped. I set out to build a bridge to a place where I could remember Jose’s life and the good memories.
My advice for newly bereaved parents includes:
I maintain a connection with Jose by going to places where he liked to eat and cooking his favorite meals, nourishing the positive memories of our relationship, and striving to be a better version of myself.
Kaylee was born in November 2003.
She hopped, skipped, and jumped through life, full of energy and humor.
It feels as though her diagnosis with acute myeloid leukemia (AML) was only yesterday. We had been putting up Christmas ornaments the Sunday before Thanksgiving in 2010, when Kaylee said she was tired and needed to lie down, which was unusual given how much she loved Christmas. Days later, she was admitted to Boston Children’s where she remained for the majority of the next five months. After several treatments, including two cycles of chemotherapy and a bone marrow transplant , Kaylee died on April 24, 2011 – Easter Sunday.
Immediately following Kaylee’s death, I was in no man’s land. A friend had to come over every morning just to make sure I got out of bed. But Kaylee had an older brother, Liam, and I focused my attention on him and just got through it. I wasn’t sure how I was supposed to grieve, or if I was doing it right. Kaylee’s care team was hugely helpful; they sent us bereavement materials and notes with their memories of Kaylee and Liam too, which was really cool.
Today, I have more good days than bad. Each June, my brother holds a golf tournament in Kaylee’s honor, and in 2014 I joined PFAC, which has been great therapy for me. Talking about Kaylee whenever I have the chance is immensely helpful.
I recommend other bereaved parents join a small support group, or find another outlet that works for them. For me, it’s been all about attitude – I know Kaylee wouldn’t want me to be sad or negative. I am using her positive energy and humor as guidance about how to grieve.
Tatyana was 10 years old in September 2008, when she was diagnosed with AML. She was an easy going, loving child with an infectious smile who cared deeply for others. Just prior to her diagnosis, Tatyana had joined a soccer team and got very tired during practice, seemingly out of shape. But weeks later we found out she had AML.
Tatyana was treated at Dana-Farber/Boston Children’s and declared “cancer free” in December 2009. Although she reached remission, she was now dealing with the effects of treatment, which resulted in a lung transplant in 2012. Tatyana died in her sleep in January 2015 of pneumonia associated with complications from her treatment.
Our old family died when Tatyana was diagnosed. We became “that family” – the one with a sick kid. Tatyana’s younger brothers kept us moving after she died. Finding support, especially from other bereaved parents, has helped me, and being a part of PFAC makes me feel connected, especially during tough times like the holidays .
Clinicians also have a tough time when their patients die and might not know what to say or do. In an ideal world, this is what I recommend for them:
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Even though I wasn’t fortunate enough to meet Jose, Kaylee, and Tatyana, listening to their parents gave me a glimpse into the lives of these vibrant children whose lives ended too early. It’s important for us to learn not to avoid bereaved parents, no matter how helpless it makes us feel. Grieving the death of a child is a devastating and isolating experience – one that no one should have to go through alone.
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Personal Narrative: The Five Stages Of Grief. After a death or loss of something close, people usually react similarly by going through the five stages of grief. These stages include denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. During a death of my Great Aunt, my family went through the stages of grief.
There are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Discuss each one and how they all connect. You can write a compelling essay by including examples of how the different stages are manifested in books, television, and maybe even your own experiences. 5. The Circle of Life.
The essay focuses on the central role the student's grandmother played within the family, what was lost by the grandmother's passing, and the life lessons that the student took away from experiencing such loss. This essay received a C by one of Kibin's paper graders. Click here to see what was done well and what needs improvement.
Losing my mother was a defining moment in my life for it changed my life irrevocably. I was devastated, but I had to become strong, proactive and it spurred me to choose a new career path. Losing my mother was very traumatising. She was the only parent I knew since the age of three and the one person I knew I could depend on one hundred percent ...
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This is a natural and normal response to grief, and it is important to give yourself time to process and come to terms with the loss. Coping with the loss of a loved one is a deeply personal and individual process, and I found that there was no "right" way to grieve. Some days I felt overwhelming sadness, while other days I felt angry or numb.
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Personal Narrative: Time Of Death. ID#513295 who entered the trailer to locate the body and declared time of death at 1934 hours. Roberts did not disturb the body, nor the scene. The deceased was later identified by his Florida Drivers License as William Gilley.
Dr. Sophie Roberts, beloved mother, grandmother and groundbreaking scientist, passed away on January 5th at age 78. She lived a full and vibrant life defined by her intellectual curiosity, pioneering research and love for her family. Dr. Roberts was a molecular biologist who made critical contributions to understanding RNA.
1675 Words. 7 Pages. Open Document. The Death of my grandmother a life experience that changed my Identity. My sense of independence was shattered when my grandmother departed from this world. I lost my grandmother and this experience shattered my perspective of life. Losing a loved one was like having a wisdom tooth pulled without any Novocain.
Monica. Monica's son, Jose. Jose was born in March 1994. He was a spiritual kid who loved to eat and cook. He was smart and intelligent, with a dark sense of humor. When Jose was 11, he was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL) and began treatment at Dana-Farber/Boston Children's Cancer and Blood Disorders Center. Seven years ...
Personal Narrative: My Father's Death Essay. My father passed away in 1991, two weeks before Christmas. I was 25 at the time but until then I had not grown up. ... I can still remember vividly the day my mother passed away. My mother passed away at a critical point in my life when I was seventeen years old from a short term illness. She was ...